All right, so here’s the story that blocks.

It all comes down to this. And I know someone’s going to say, “Well, that doesn’t apply to me.”

(Or maybe you’ll think that, but won’t post it.)

My suggestion is to explore “the story that blocks”, and that story is betrayal.

Betrayal….

Just notice how that shows up. 

“Oh my God, my tribe abandoned me.”

• “What will they think?”
• (Actually, it’s…)
• “How will they judge me?”

THAT is the secret one,right?

• “Who will be my friends?”
• “I don’t want to be all alone.”

Cat videos….

You see, in a dread-driven day, OR in a distraction-driven day… 

Well,  I watch people. And for example, whenever I had to go to New Zealand to get out of the country for a few days, when I was on a visitor visa, I sat in the computer room and just watched people live out their….

DISTRACTION DRIVEN DAYS

And I watched people share cat videos, and it’s like they don’t want to be ALONE … 

“You’ll love this cat video, Bob.” 

It’s like, oh my God. It’s like at work.

There’s a group… I remember when I worked in a nursing home, and the nurse aides would all get together outside on breaks and they would complain, they had their own “me too” club. 

“Oh my God.”

You’ve noticed these all over the place, and then here’s the thing. OXYTOCIN, that’s (THE BRAIN CHEMICAL) all about belonging. That’s one of the chemicals, that’s one of the four pillars of power we’ll be exploring in the course in a few cool different ways.

Oxytocin and connecting….

But I want you to get how oxytocin, AND the threat of not having that, ruins so much of your life.

(Which leads us to….)

Cortisol, by the way, which is, it’s not the opposite. Cortisol is the one that feels like death.

Betrayed….

Cortisol is the one that keeps people loopy, and BETRAYAL (being abandoned) is a big one with Cortisol. So just pay attention, let these bounce around a little bit.

We’ll be putting up some resources in the group, if you haven’t seen them already, or they may be there now.

• So you’ve got to nail rejection.
• You’ve got to reject rejection.

We’ve talked about this before, but we’re going to have some fun here with this. Now here’s the way. Here’s one of the tools that you can play with.

Replacing….

Remember with I remember when, it’s not about the words. You remember when she was single by imagining her married.

Okay, if you’re going to replace something, this is how you do it. If you’re going to replace this whole thing about your tribe abandoning you, let’s bring it around your tribe doesn’t, hasn’t, won’t. Here’s a Neville Goddard quote,

“Prove to yourself that you are God by feeling your desire now as an accomplished fact. Listen to your friends talk about you. Are they rejoicing because of your good fortune, or are they expressing envy?”

By the way, what does this imply?

• That you’ve got friends…
• That you’re close enough to them, that you can listen…
• And yes, they do have mixed emotions about you, but that doesn’t stop them from being your friends.

Neville continues…

“Imagine their words are true. Persist in imagining they are true. Continue to imagine your desire is already an accomplished fact. And when it is objectively realized, the proof will be yours.”

By the way, the proof won’t be their’s. They’ll say “It will have happened anyway,” they’ll say, “Oh yeah, oh yeah,” or whatever, or “Hey, cool, look at him, nice,” Whatever.

Kill this….

But here’s the thing guys, you’ve got to kill this whole thing of abandonment, of betrayal. And why do I choose that word?

Because if you’re the part of any “me too” club, and we all have been in in them…

Okay, ready? God, THIS is what I heard growing up, from EVERYONE…

“I mean like it sucks that the system keeps us broke. 40 hours a week, barely getting by, can barely afford the mortgage. It’s the way the system is.”

– Leaving that behind seems to bring up….

You betrayed us….

Okay. Whenever you step out of that system, whenever I stopped trading time for dollars, there was a risk.

And the risk was, you know what, I’ve got friends. Do you know what they talk about? “40 hours a week”, “barely getting by”. You know, like “I hope they give me a raise.” “They probably won’t.”

Betray the system! Buy the Pearl!

I mean when you walk away from a system, you’re betraying it.

In other words, you’re not buying into it anymore. You buy the pearl and you betray everything else. And the thing is, until you get okay betraying a system that no longer works, you can’t help your friends exit it, too.

Tribe…

All right. So here’s the story that reveals.

You are a member of a tribe and you’re one that leads the tribe. You don’t have to be an official leader, by the way, because if your friends are rejoicing because of your good fortune and/or expressing envy,

I’ve had way more than one person say,…

• “How do you do this?”
• “How do you live like you do?”
• “What’s your secret?”

I want you to think about when any president gets elected, and I don’t care if it’s your guy or the other guy, there’s both rejoicing and there’s always like a negative emotion, envy or worse. Yeah, those people always win. You get it?

Make a difference…

And here’s some poor schmuck that just wants to lead, make a difference. Make a difference. So there’s always some kind of leadership going on and the key is to not limit the way you lead your life by a fear of isolation, of betrayal, of abandonment.

CONNECT THE DOTS

Okay. Part two, connect the dots. Dots are vertical lines. I want you to get this, because the dots in your life will connect. (See the bullet points in LEFTOVERS below.)

One of the reasons why we keep saying imagine up lots of goodie things is because the dots connect. And I’ll show you why this is so important in just a second.

If you just have one or two buns in the oven….

Okay, here’s my thing. This is how I will know that I have a dream-driven day. You’re screwed. Your dream-driven day is about your day, not about one part of your day. It’s sort of like your job.

LEFTOVERS…

Your job is a subset of your day, but what happens is people get stuck on the job as the big part, and the rest of the day is what’s left over. So I’m going to share with you some of my dots. These are the little comments. Ready?

• What deals did you get today?
• You’re looking great.
• Do you swim every day?
• Here’s the one behind that.
• Don’t you work?

Sometime after this one, “How can I make money online”

Or, “I’ve got an idea for a website, an app, when’s your next class? Can we book a call?”

You see, all those showed up in my life within the past 48 hours. Those are things that I’ve imagined. You get it? Friends, strangers, associates, clients. Those are the little wee snippets that I’ve imagined as real. And these are what I get.

Lot’s of dots…

But you get that they’re all over the place. There are a lot of dots that connect. “What deals did you get today?” You see I’m known as the guy that gets the deals. You guys know why.

• “You’re looking great.”

You also know why. It’s not because I do swim everyday. I swim everyday because it’s part of my state now. I love exploring my body.

• “How could I make money online?”

It’s not just Ebay and porn. Back in the old days, if you told someone, “Yeah, I make my money online.” “Oh what is it? Ebay or porn?” There’s a lot more than those two options now.

• “I’ve got a great idea for a website, an app.”

My buddy Jordan told me, I was pondering something yesterday when I was leaving the leisure center where the pool is, and I didn’t have the time to ask someone a question there.

And I walked out and Jordan walked me to

… my car and said, “I’ve got an idea for a website, for an app,” and what he was telling me it was exactly what I needed at the time.

It’s like, yeah, if you had that in function, I’d be using it right now. So he’s got at least one person interested in his app.

Really cool.

Again, (when I’m asked) “When is your next class?’

That tells me something. “Can I book a call?” Yeah. People are getting enough results. You get it there in first or second gear and they want to speed it up.

Nobody asks about a class or wants to book a call when they’re totally screwed. Do you get it? This is where I want you to play.

There’s the story that blocks, and that one always has some component of betrayal in it.

Betrayal so you can be faithful….

You’ve got to be willing to betray a system so that you can be faithful to your people. And by the way, this doesn’t mean …

You have to refuse or betray some “system”….

I have tons of people in my life that refuse to feel it real, that refuse to make money online, that refuse to make systems that change their lives, and that’s fine. But also I imagine lovingly for them, because I get this works, and I get this is a very real way of life.

You can have a dream-driven day, but you can’t make (your manifesting) about a choke point.

You’ve got to let it be about your day. And again, notice how many different things, what deals did I get today? Yeah, that’s an identity.

“You’re looking great.”

Yeah. You know what, some days I feel like crap. I’m currently walking with a really nice limp because I’m just working through some issues on my hip and my foot and having a blast with that.

“Do you swim everyday?” Yep, I do. You get it? These are about things all over my life. 

DAILY EVENTS….

And there’s other comments that we get, too, but I want you to get dots. Connect the dots, because, again, all of these stories of mine, you get how they weave together? They weave together, they support each other.

WEAVING TOGETHER – THE TAPESTRY OF YOU

They’re all parts of my life. It’s not just the big win that makes holiday possible. I want every day to be adventure so you don’t have to look forward to a holiday. All righty. See you.